Security Blankets & Strength: A Guide to Transitional Objects
Security blankets, comfort objects, or loveys – whatever your family calls them, they are all examples of what childhood experts call ‘transitional objects’. These objects play an essential part in a child’s emotional support system, providing comfort and reassurance as they find their place in the world. This includes during transitions like entering a new early learning program.
Below, you’ll learn why these objects are so important and how and when they can be used.
- These objects provide continuity during change, easing any potential anxiety or fear from being in an unfamiliar environment.
- The familiarity of the item is what provides comfort to the child, and this reassurance is what helps give them the confidence to strike out on their own and into interactions with other people and other environments.
- Most children choose their own comfort items, and in some cases, it isn’t the soft, cuddly kind. It may be an unusual item like a toothbrush. There is no need to worry, though, as long as it is nothing that could harm the child.
- If your child does not have a transitional item, it may be worth helping them find one if you think it will be beneficial. Hand-me-downs could be a great option for this.
- If, for whatever reason, your child is not able to have their transitional object during the time of change, start a ritual where your child says ‘goodbye’. You can even keep your child’s transitional object in the car.
- If possible, it is recommended to have two versions of the item in case one gets lost or doesn’t make it in the laundry.
- Children may start relying less on their lovey by the age of five. However, they may periodically return to it throughout their childhood and into adolescence, so it is not recommended to throw or give away the item.
- Removing transitional objects from your child can cause anxiety and should be avoided. When the time is right, your child will lose interest in it naturally.
The benefits of these items go beyond transitioning into new environments or situations. Oftentimes, it is the child’s first ‘friend’, especially if they are an only child or the youngest sibling. It may be comforting for children who become overwhelmed in certain situations. To us, it is a stuffed animal, blanket, toy, etc. But to them, it is so much more.